No One Ever Said I was a Feminist
I remember the first time someone in my age group referred to someone else in my age group as a MILF, or Mom I’d Like to…ya know. I was 17 and in my senior year of high school. One of my best friends had said that Myra, a fellow senior who had a baby in sophomore year, was a MILF. Technically he was right, but ew. First of all, Myra was my friend. She was an attractive individual but he wasn’t allowed to say he was MILF-y. Maybe her mom was MILF-y (which, if I remember correctly, she was) but she was my friend and the farthest he was allowed to go was to tell me that he wanted to “bone” Myra. Have some respect. Secondly, MILF’s aren’t your peers; MILF’s are your peers’ moms or your mom’s child having peers, no matter what the age.
The older I got, the more my friends reproduced. They are still doing so as we speak. Once in a while, someone will refer to one of them as a MILF. I know they’re right but still…no. I know, I wouldn’t mind rubbing up on them either, but we can’t just go calling every hot woman that has a kid a MILF. And what of Myra’s mom? Is she now a GILF just because her child procreated? I say no. I say that these titles are generationally specific. To Myra’s daughter’s friends right now, Myra is probably a MILF. If Myra’s mom is still walking around in form fitting dresses with pouty lips, those same friends probably think she’s a GILF. But I still see Myra as my attractive friend who, yeah, maybe I’d bone her. Her mom is still a MILF for me.
Also, don’t confuse a MILF with a cougar. A MILF is someone of your parents’ age or a friend’s mom whose shirt you want to take off. A cougar can be a cougar no matter what your age is, what matters is her age and the age of her target. You can’t just say, “Nancy in Accounting is a total cougar” just because she’s hot and over the age of 40. The only way Nancy is a cougar is if she is actively pursuing a sexual relationship with a much younger man or men. If she flirts with Ted the intern while happily married to her similarly aged husband, she is not a cougar; she’s just hot and flirty.
Tune in next week when I explain the difference between a dirty old man and a pervy old man. I’ll give you a hint: One is all talk.